“Success” and “Failure” are two of my most favorite terms of all times. I have been dealing with these two since very early age and I am sure it is true for most of you as well. But have you wondered what exactly these two terms mean and how they define our lives – our happiness, health and wealth?
In short, whatever you do in life, there is a final result for it. Success and Failure! When you do something, you have an intention of achieving, completing or changing a thing. The Real-Life form of those expectations are called Success. And when things opposite or unexpected happens, that’s a fail and it becomes what we call — A Failure!
The sweetest victory is the one that’s most difficult. The one that requires you to reach down deep inside, to fight with everything you’ve got, to be willing to leave everything out there on the battlefield—without knowing, until that do-or-die moment, if your heroic effort will be enough. Society doesn’t reward defeat, and you won’t find many failures documented in history books.
Diving deep into ‘Failure’
Dreams strengthens you and Fear weakens you. When you have strength to do things, you’ll be more hard and smart working. But when you’re afraid, that means you’ll be afraid to move closer to success too. The more hard working you are, the more chances of success getting hit to you and the more afraid you are, the more chances of you failing again and again. So, you’ll live just like an ordinary person if both dreams and fear hit you on the same time. You won’t be having any success nor failure. You seriously don’t want a life like that, right? Well, I don’t!
When we take a closer look at the great thinkers throughout history, a willingness to take on failure isn’t a new or extraordinary thought at all. From the likes of Augustine, Darwin and Freud to the business mavericks and sports legends of today, failure is as powerful a tool as any in reaching great success. But sadly, today’s conservative corporate cultures, don’t want to go there.
“Instead they choose to play it safe, to fly below the radar, repeating the same safe choices over and over again. They operate under the belief that if they make no waves, they attract no attention; no one will yell at them for failing because they generally never attempt anything great at which they could possibly fail (or succeed).” – Ralph Heath
Things to avoid
Many times when I see a roadblock ahead of me or it feels like a failure, I tend to avoid doing certain things
- Thinking that I will do things later
- Stay depressed for long
- Criticize myself
- And finally giving up !!
There is always a ‘tomorrow’ and we don’t know what is in there for us. But instead of being hopeful, we end up imagining the worst possible situations. One of my most favorite quotes that has been proven true many times in my life is below
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something: your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well worn path.” – Steve Jobs
The truth is that you usually have to fail to succeed. No one emerges at the top. Even those born lucky eventually get a turn on the wheel of misfortune. Anyone with a resume of accomplishments also has a resume of failures, humiliations and setbacks. Jobs was fired by the company he co-founded. Yet it was during this period of exile that he picked up a little computer graphics company later called Pixar Animation Studios, the sale of which made him a billionaire. I can go on.
This is to say, to fail is human. To resurrect oneself is an act of courage.
- Focus on what you can do best at this moment. When we start to look too far into the future then any task or project can seem close to impossible. And so we shut down because we become overwhelmed and start surfing the internet aimlessly instead.
- Be an optimist for today and believe that everything will work out just fine.
- Be persistent and never give up. You never know how close you are to reach your goal.Our mind probably has a reasonable time-frame for success. This might not correspond to a realistic time-frame though.
- Remember, most troubles never happen. Most things you fear will happen never happen. They are just monsters in our own mind. And if they happen then they will most often not be as painful or bad as you expected. Worrying is most often just a waste of time.
This is of course easy to say. But if you think back and remind yourself of how little of what you feared throughout your life that has actually happened you can start to release more and more worry from your thoughts. I know it because I have done it.
This makes it a lot easier to start doing more of what we really want in life. And to move through our day to day life with a lighter, happier and more optimistic attitude.
Good luck for tomorrow.